Step four: How to help yourself

We often find it easier to help others, but when it comes to helping ourselves we can’t help but feel guilty.

Is it the guilt of self indulgence? Or is it just because we don’t think we need any help?
I thought I’d help myself by starting therapy. I have to say, I feel liberated after my first ever CBT review. I can’t believe I actually liked counselling. I can’t believe I actually booked an appointment for the review. But most importantly, I’m in shock that I took the second step in helping myself.

All it takes is a phone call. Whether you’ve been glaring at the phone for the past ten minutes, or you’re standing outside of the doctors, dubious to even open the door. It only takes thirty seconds of courage to taking that step. You shouldn’t feel like you don’t deserve thirty minutes of a doctors time, they are there to help you, not the other way round.

You can help yourself in other ways too, this is where the self-indulgence part comes in.
Fill up your bath with a cocktail of salts and radox, or whatever floats your boat. Then; relax, indulge and just be selfish for thirty minutes a day (at least). It is possible to put yourself above others and be selfless at the same time, it’s all about finding a reasonable balance between the two. Commit to what you are physically and mentally capable of doing, otherwise you’ll find that you’re helping everyone else but yourself.

You need looking after too!

A dedication to my inspiration

Every idea starts with an influence.

My main influence for this blog, is my best friend.
For weeks I told her she is more than welcome to live with me and my dysfunctional parents, but it takes a little more than persuasion when you have to leave a three year relationship, and a cat. So, after a very reluctant struggle, I finally managed to convince her to move away from her abusive boyfriend.

But, picking up the pieces that her boyfriend left behind, was not an easy task, especially when I was broken myself. Can you fix something that is already broken? Of course, all you need is super glue or some gaffe tape. Or in my case, a best friend.

And as her best friend, I told her honestly that I was suffering with depression and anxiety, so I needed her support as well. Then I said, “it’ll be like a project, l’ll help you become yourself again and you can help me become myself again”.

We all lose ourselves at some point, but we can become ourselves again if we try.

-Me and my best friend.
jess