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Hello, beautiful people! 

I hope you’ve all been keeping yourselves busy (know I have!). And that you’re all in an excellent state of mind (I’m exhausted). Blah, Blah, Blah. I’d rather not bore you with the uneccessary details of my full time job.

I just thought I’d reveal the premise to a new article I’ve been rustling up…

Mental Health in Teens:
What You Need to Know

I listened to an exemplary piece or reportage on BBC Radio 4 yesterday. It discussed the rise of mental health issues in teens today and the link between the digital world. Anonymous teens spoke of their own experiences, many of which were shaped by their councillor or parents. It was a real eye-opener for those unaware of why many teens rely on self harming as their escape route. I was also baffled to hear stories from children as young as 11, suffering from early onset depression. Unfortunately, teenagers can be the best actors. As one girl said:

“Just because I’m smiling, it doesn’t mean I’m happy”. 

If you have any questions, please pop me a message. In the meantime, savour two minutes of your Wednesday night to catch the rest of the article. 

Take care, everyone. 

A mind of two sorts 

The impulse

A rapture 

A cold-hearted capture

The mind, so weak 

Its crumbling infrastructure 

What we hear is not what we know 

This is my mind, but I wouldn’t call it home 

Nor a prison 

Or a rapture 

Nor a cold-hearted capture

Oh what a jubilant parade 

A euphoric asylum 

My mind is a place where I’m constantly shining 

The hedonistic splurges 

Terbulant surges 

A delightful delerium 

Of creative momentum

My mind is split in two 

I could be in heaven 

Then hell 

 This my mind, take it as you will. 

Mental health in the work place? Taboo? Or truth?

Mental health: it’s just as important to maintain as our physical health. So why is it that we’re still terrified to tick the ‘disability’ box on a job application? 

Would you tell your soon-to-be employer that you suffer from a mental illness that may affect your work? Or would you just hide? Hide behind that mask you’ve been wearing for so many years. 

Yes, to be or not to be? That is, indeed, the question.

I recently told my new employer that I would be absent one day this month to partake in medical research. A research intended for past sufferers of depression. That’s right, I’ve donated myself to science. I’ve become an official human guinea pig. And what for? To pay rent, obviously :/ 

Anyway, long story short; I didn’t think about the stigma, I just spat the words out as if we were talking about how my weekend was. Then there was a spark of tension, as if to say, “oh gosh, I’m sorry to hear that you… Er.. You?”. But to be honest, it felt liberating to say that I had suffered. And I now have a summer job- result!

So why is mental health discriminated in the work place so much?

I can only think of a few reasons why. The first being, ’cause I’m mental’. 

As soon as you mention the D word, I’m avoided like a homeless person begging for sympathy. And that’s exactly it, I don’t want sympathy. I want compassion. I want people to understand it’s nothing out of the ordinary. We’re not psychopaths plotting to fly a plane into the Bermuda Triangle, we’re normal people who have much a right to work as everyone else.

People think that having a mental health condition affects your ability to work. Obviously this is true to a certain degree, but what affects us the most is being discriminated against.

But…

What is the cure for aiding this god-ridden taboo of a subject? Personally, I believe telling people in a way they can understand. Throw in a joke (just so they think we are ‘normal’) and smile like you mean it. Amen. 

The importance of keeping up appearances

Keeping up appearances, for me, keeps the mind healthy. Call me materialistic, but doesn’t saving up for that pair of shoes or dress that you’ve had your eye on for weeks, keep you motivated to work? Or, say that you’ve always wanted to be a blonde but you’ve shyed away from the idea because you might look ‘different’. Either way; paying attention to your outer self could help you heal some wounds in your inner self. 

Fashion keeps me motivated and makes me feel good about myself when I buy something I like. I used to want to be a model, I tried to become one by going to London -and all that jazz- but I don’t agree in the whole negative impact the industry depicts of women’s body sizes. Yes, apparently I needed to maintain a pre-pubescent figure and just not grow any hips at all. But hey, I’m now proud to say I have 39 inch hips.

Anyway, this is about you so let’s get to it…

Why is it so important to take care of your image?

It’s all part of the ‘taking care of yourself’ process. Once people start noticing the small changes (or major, in case you did decide to go blonde) you’ll start to feel noticed and this will impact the way you value yourself. 

There’s nothing worse than thinking “I’m worthless, people will never look at me”. If your inner self is beautiful then there’s no reason to think that your outer self doesn’t need tending to as well!

What I’m NOT trying to say is…

-Go out there and live a consumerists dream

-Looks are everything and people only value the person that you ‘look’ like

-spend all your money on clothes! 

-Become someone who you’re not (in terms of looks too)

-Act like you’re okay in front of people when you’re crying inside

 

^ a random picture which reflects my current happy mood. 

4 things to know before you stop taking antidepressants 

As a bid to lead a happier life I’ve decided to quit the happy pills. Ironic, isn’t it? I’ve been feeding my brain with a serotonin feast, and I’m just about sick of relying on these pills in order to lead a happier, depression-free life.

I’m not saying that they don’t work, at first they are a god send! But after nearly two years of being on sertraline (Zoloft) I’m ready to flush the SSRI’s out of my system and make room for the real me.

Here are some golden rules (which I’ve only just discovered myself!)…

1) The doctor is (usually) always right.

Never stop taking antidepressants without telling your doctor 

This could heighten the risk of suicide or self-harming.

The doctor will also put you on the right path by either lowering your dosage or switching you to another medication for the time being.

For me, missing just one day will cause severe ‘brain zaps’ leaving me disoriented and unfit for everyday routines.

2) Ask yourself: are you ready to stop taking antidepressants?

Do you feel you are physiologically dependant on your antidepressants or that you can live without them? 

You will know when you are ready. You won’t feel scared, or frightened to stop. You’ll feel a sense of clarity, that you’re happy enough without them.

I’m sick of feeling numb and not like myself at times, I want to be the person people enjoy being around. I’m happy, so I know the journey will have a light at the end of this all.

3) Tell your friends

Your friends are there to support you, so keep them informed and they might be able to help. 

Friends are the best medicine.

4) Research the withdrawal symptoms of your antidepressants

Some can be short term and others stay in your system for longer.

Antidepressants such as Prozac (fluoxetine) stay in your system for much longer than sertraline, making it sometimes easier to wean off them.

sertraline

I wish everyone the best of luck!

Have you seen the Labour Party’s proposal?

Just a snippet I found on the party website…

  1. “Provide fairer access to mental health services.We will make mental health the priority it deserves to be. We will ensure that people have access to the treatment and services they need. We will make sure all professional NHS staff receive mental health training.”

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Tomorrows article: 50 shades of abuse

Recently, Ive been hearing a lot of hype from friends who are infatuated by the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ trilogy. 



And what’s worse is that they’ve made a film adaption on its glorified S&M content. I mean, this makes tacky erotica novels look like a childrens book.It is pure filth.

I’m now going to finish reading the last chapter of ‘Fifty Shades Darker’, and then consider washing my eyes out with soap and water. I’m ashamed of this terrible act that I’ve committed.

I’m aware that a review on an R rated erotica saga appears completely irrelevant to my blog. But, I’ll be discussing the glorification of abuse and sexual exploitation. People need to know that is content is not okay, it is a relationship of control, not love.

Farewell until tomorrow.

5 ways to be happy without anti-depressants 

Anti depressants are the main ingredient in fuelling our mind with happiness. And sure, they work wonders. But it take months to really feel the impact of positivity in our lives.

So, why not put aside a few minutes to soak in some quality R & R.

1) Start with changing your diet plan.

Remember: we are what we eat, figuratively speaking of course. 

-stock up on superfoods such as goji berries, broccoli, blueberries, dark chocolate and oliy fish. And drink plenty of green tea!

My diet has boosted my ability to get out of bed at ridiculous o’clock and given me that positive kick up the arse that I needed. Not only that, my skin looks glowing so I feel happier about my physical appearance too- extra happy points!



2) Keep yourself busy 

Keeping our mind occupied with plans or things to look forward too focused our concentration on the task in hand. Overting any negative thoughts into positive ones, soon you won’t even have time to worry!

  1. Make a check list of things that need either organising or planning
  2. List those things in order of priority

Try to include a personal goal, such as writing an article or talking to a stranger. Whatever it is, that goal should make you feel positively fulfilled for the day.

3) Excercise 10 minutes each day 

Excercise will release those vital endorphins that stimulates happiness. So, healthy body = healthy mind.

-Commit to a daily routine of squats, or lunges or whatever takes your cardiovascular fancy.

Try to do an excercise that really gets your heart pumping.

soon, it will become as routine as brushing your teeth!

4) spend time with the people that make you the happiest 

The people we hang around with define us more than we think. A person who always looks on the bright side for example, will eventually change our perspective of things we would usually deem negative.

5) Turn any negativity into positivity 

Have you ever heard of happiness being contagious?

Well, it’s no myth. If we reveal our happier selves to our friends, they will more than likely love spending time with you, and if people love spending time with you, then that must mean… 

We become our happier selves more often.

Your smile will work wonders, it’s free isn’t it? 



Portrait of a painful memory

She painted her skin
with the brush of a knife
the fibres so sharp
it could end her life

She looked at her masterpiece
And sighed in a whim
The oozing crimson
Trickled down, past her shin

Then she glared at the lines
that the paintbrush had traced
She’s ashamed of her work
She’s ashamed she resisted
It’s a terrible mess
I told her, it won’t last forever
You’ll be free someday
I promised
She wept
Then she painted one last picture
And away
She swept