The importance of keeping up appearances

Keeping up appearances, for me, keeps the mind healthy. Call me materialistic, but doesn’t saving up for that pair of shoes or dress that you’ve had your eye on for weeks, keep you motivated to work? Or, say that you’ve always wanted to be a blonde but you’ve shyed away from the idea because you might look ‘different’. Either way; paying attention to your outer self could help you heal some wounds in your inner self. 

Fashion keeps me motivated and makes me feel good about myself when I buy something I like. I used to want to be a model, I tried to become one by going to London -and all that jazz- but I don’t agree in the whole negative impact the industry depicts of women’s body sizes. Yes, apparently I needed to maintain a pre-pubescent figure and just not grow any hips at all. But hey, I’m now proud to say I have 39 inch hips.

Anyway, this is about you so let’s get to it…

Why is it so important to take care of your image?

It’s all part of the ‘taking care of yourself’ process. Once people start noticing the small changes (or major, in case you did decide to go blonde) you’ll start to feel noticed and this will impact the way you value yourself. 

There’s nothing worse than thinking “I’m worthless, people will never look at me”. If your inner self is beautiful then there’s no reason to think that your outer self doesn’t need tending to as well!

What I’m NOT trying to say is…

-Go out there and live a consumerists dream

-Looks are everything and people only value the person that you ‘look’ like

-spend all your money on clothes! 

-Become someone who you’re not (in terms of looks too)

-Act like you’re okay in front of people when you’re crying inside

 

^ a random picture which reflects my current happy mood. 

4 things to know before you stop taking antidepressants 

As a bid to lead a happier life I’ve decided to quit the happy pills. Ironic, isn’t it? I’ve been feeding my brain with a serotonin feast, and I’m just about sick of relying on these pills in order to lead a happier, depression-free life.

I’m not saying that they don’t work, at first they are a god send! But after nearly two years of being on sertraline (Zoloft) I’m ready to flush the SSRI’s out of my system and make room for the real me.

Here are some golden rules (which I’ve only just discovered myself!)…

1) The doctor is (usually) always right.

Never stop taking antidepressants without telling your doctor 

This could heighten the risk of suicide or self-harming.

The doctor will also put you on the right path by either lowering your dosage or switching you to another medication for the time being.

For me, missing just one day will cause severe ‘brain zaps’ leaving me disoriented and unfit for everyday routines.

2) Ask yourself: are you ready to stop taking antidepressants?

Do you feel you are physiologically dependant on your antidepressants or that you can live without them? 

You will know when you are ready. You won’t feel scared, or frightened to stop. You’ll feel a sense of clarity, that you’re happy enough without them.

I’m sick of feeling numb and not like myself at times, I want to be the person people enjoy being around. I’m happy, so I know the journey will have a light at the end of this all.

3) Tell your friends

Your friends are there to support you, so keep them informed and they might be able to help. 

Friends are the best medicine.

4) Research the withdrawal symptoms of your antidepressants

Some can be short term and others stay in your system for longer.

Antidepressants such as Prozac (fluoxetine) stay in your system for much longer than sertraline, making it sometimes easier to wean off them.

sertraline

I wish everyone the best of luck!

5 ways to be happy without anti-depressants 

Anti depressants are the main ingredient in fuelling our mind with happiness. And sure, they work wonders. But it take months to really feel the impact of positivity in our lives.

So, why not put aside a few minutes to soak in some quality R & R.

1) Start with changing your diet plan.

Remember: we are what we eat, figuratively speaking of course. 

-stock up on superfoods such as goji berries, broccoli, blueberries, dark chocolate and oliy fish. And drink plenty of green tea!

My diet has boosted my ability to get out of bed at ridiculous o’clock and given me that positive kick up the arse that I needed. Not only that, my skin looks glowing so I feel happier about my physical appearance too- extra happy points!



2) Keep yourself busy 

Keeping our mind occupied with plans or things to look forward too focused our concentration on the task in hand. Overting any negative thoughts into positive ones, soon you won’t even have time to worry!

  1. Make a check list of things that need either organising or planning
  2. List those things in order of priority

Try to include a personal goal, such as writing an article or talking to a stranger. Whatever it is, that goal should make you feel positively fulfilled for the day.

3) Excercise 10 minutes each day 

Excercise will release those vital endorphins that stimulates happiness. So, healthy body = healthy mind.

-Commit to a daily routine of squats, or lunges or whatever takes your cardiovascular fancy.

Try to do an excercise that really gets your heart pumping.

soon, it will become as routine as brushing your teeth!

4) spend time with the people that make you the happiest 

The people we hang around with define us more than we think. A person who always looks on the bright side for example, will eventually change our perspective of things we would usually deem negative.

5) Turn any negativity into positivity 

Have you ever heard of happiness being contagious?

Well, it’s no myth. If we reveal our happier selves to our friends, they will more than likely love spending time with you, and if people love spending time with you, then that must mean… 

We become our happier selves more often.

Your smile will work wonders, it’s free isn’t it? 



Sorry for neglecting all of you!

I will be writing another ‘step’ (it’s been so long!) tomorrow. So feast your eyes on the next ‘How to help yourself’.

I have a truck load of uni work to finish beforehand, so for you late-night dwellers, put aside a few minutes around the hours of midnight.

I look forward to your views, likes or comments 🙂

just a random picture from the summer (that I so dearly miss)

just a random picture from the summer (that I so dearly miss)

A dedication to my inspiration

Every idea starts with an influence.

My main influence for this blog, is my best friend.
For weeks I told her she is more than welcome to live with me and my dysfunctional parents, but it takes a little more than persuasion when you have to leave a three year relationship, and a cat. So, after a very reluctant struggle, I finally managed to convince her to move away from her abusive boyfriend.

But, picking up the pieces that her boyfriend left behind, was not an easy task, especially when I was broken myself. Can you fix something that is already broken? Of course, all you need is super glue or some gaffe tape. Or in my case, a best friend.

And as her best friend, I told her honestly that I was suffering with depression and anxiety, so I needed her support as well. Then I said, “it’ll be like a project, l’ll help you become yourself again and you can help me become myself again”.

We all lose ourselves at some point, but we can become ourselves again if we try.

-Me and my best friend.
jess

Step Two explained: Stop thinking about what people think.

The number one rule for ignoring what people think, is to ignore your surroundings.

Now, imagine yourself in an empty room.

There are no people. There are no faces. There are absolutely no worries.
Just concentrate on something else, such as a car.
You don’t care what the car is thinking, you don’t care whether or not the car likes you or not, are you? (Don’t worry, I seriously doubt that the Peugeot 206 you’ve been staring at for the past two minutes is going to re-enact a scene from Transformers)

Oh, and you should acknowledge some of your surroundings, otherwise you might become victim to a car accident.

The reality is, people don’t analyse you nearly as much as you analyse yourself. Depending on what anxiety or depression you have (I have partial social anxiety) caring what people think when you walk in the room or become the centre of attention is quite a big deal. So, rather than observing, think of something else. It could be, what you’re having for lunch or whether or not you should ask out your love interest.

To summarise,
don’t care about what the people around you think, care about what you think.