Three self-proven ways to change your thinking from negative to positive!

so so true

Empower Love

You may always have the tendency to think the worst is going to happen, but most of the time it doesn’t..It turns out the tendency to think negatively is a human evolution. This type of thinking use to be a survival tool to help protect us during cavemen era! The good news is, today were not in that era anymore and we can change our thinking! Instead of thinking why YOU are thinking that way, think of all the things YOU are doing to stop it 🙂

Here are 3 awesome ways to help you change your thinking! (I’ve experimented with all of these and all of them worked for me so I hope it can work for you too!) 🙂

#1. The Gratitude Journal-This is really easy to start and it can change your thoughts instantly! Just grab an empty journal and title it “GRATITUDE.” After that is done, start writing all the things you are grateful for each and everyday. It doesn’t have to be a very long list, just think of all the simple things that made you happy today 🙂 Try your best to do this at the same time (eg.after breakfast, before bed), so it can become a habit. I started this, and it changed my life 🙂 I’m so thankful for all the good things that comes into my life, more good just comes and it can happen to you too!


#2.Surround yourself with everything positive!-Have you ever heard of the quote from Jim Rohn- “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

This quote speaks truth, whether it is people or things engage yourself with positive things, know that you have the choice! To be honest, I am the most positive person out of all my friends, but most of the time I surround myself with doing the things that makes me happy like cooking, singing or dancing. Listening to inspirational pod-casts is a plus for me! Just remember doing these things is a choice you have to make, do this for yourself!:)

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#3.Ask yourself this: Is this thought even rational or logical?-Ask yourself these questions whenever your mind wanders to the negative bubble. Think reasonable, think logical. List or think all of the things that counteract that thought. You’ll be pleasantly surprised with why you even thought that way at first.


I hope you try at least one or even better ALL THREE of them!:D Remember it takes 21days to form a habit, so be patient with your results. Give me a shout out, by commenting below how these methods worked for you, or if you have any ideas or suggestions for my blog! I’ll be more than happy to hear from you!:)

Thanks for reading!

Empower Love,


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The digital age and depression

Mental health of children and young people ‘at risk in digital age’

Cyberbullying and rise in self-harm highlighted by MPs voicing concern over violent video games and sexting.

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Cyberbullying and websites advocating anorexia and self-harm are posing a danger to the mental wellbeing of children and young people, MPs found. Photograph: Alamy

Violent video games, the sharing of indecent images on mobile phones, and other types of digital communications, are harming young people’s mental health, MPs warned on Wednesday, amid evidence of big increases in self-harm and serious psychological problems among the under-18s.

Cyberbullying and websites advocating anorexia and self-harm are also posing a danger to the mental wellbeing of children and young people, the Commons health select committee says in its report.

Sarah Wollaston, chair of the committee, who was a GP for 24 years before becoming a Tory MP in 2010, said: “In the past if you were being bullied it might just be in the classroom. Now it follows [you] way beyond the walk home from school. It is there all the time. Voluntary bodies have not suggested stopping young people using the internet. But for some young people it’s clearly a new source of stress.”

However, the MPs said they had found no evidence that the emerging digital culture was behind the worrying rise, of up to 25% to 30% a year, in numbers of children and young people seeking treatment for mental health problems.

The cross-party group acknowledges that forms of online and social communication are now central to the lives of under-18s, but says that a government inquiry into the effects is needed because of the potential for harm.

“For today’s children and young people, digital culture and social media are an integral part of life … this has the potential to significantly increase stress and to amplify the effects of bullying,” the committee’s report says.

Some young people experience “bullying, harassment and threats of violence” when online, the MPs say. While they did not look into internet regulation in depth during their six-month inquiry, they concluded: “In our view sufficient concern has been raised to warrant a more detailed consideration of the impact of the internet on children’s and young people’s mental health, and in particular the use of social media and impact of pro-anorexia, self-harm and other inappropriate websites.”

It calls on the Department of Health and NHS England’s joint taskforce, now investigating, alongside bodies such as the UK Council for Child Internet Safety, the mental health of under-18s, to assess the impact of social media.

The MPs appreciate the move for e-safety to be taught at all four education key-stages in England. But they also want the Department for Education, as part of a review of mental health education in schools, to “ensure that links between online safety, cyberbullying, and maintaining and protecting emotional wellbeing and mental health are fully articulated”.

Wollaston voiced concern that “sexting” (sharing indecent photographs) could be traumatic for vulnerable young women persuaded to pose for intimate pictures then finding the shots shared widely. Some would end up being harassed, she said. Sexting had “become normalised in some school environments”, she said. “We need much better education about the dangers of sexting.” She also expressed unease about the impact of violent video games played by young people. Parents, she said, should do more to check what their offspring were doing online in their free time and talk to them because “if they are spending two hours a night doing that, is that harming their child?”

Lucie Russell, director of campaigns and media at the charity Young Minds, said: “The 24/7 online world has the potential to massively increase young people’s stress levels and multiplies the opportunities for them to connect with others in similar distress. Websites like Tumblr, where there has been recent media focus on self-harm blogs, must do all they can to limit triggering content and that which encourages self-harming behaviour.”

Russell backed the committee’s view that the internet could also be “a valuable source of support for children and young people with mental health problems”. But, she added that “many professionals feel completely out of touch with, even intimidated by, social media and the net”.

The report paints a grim picture of the growing number of under-18s needing care, often struggling to access it, or becoming an inpatient hundreds of miles from home, as children’s and adolescents’ mental health services tried to cope with budget cuts, lack of staff and too few beds.

“Major problems” in accessing services ends with “children and young people’s safety being compromised while they wait for a bed to become available”, say the MPs.

Services are under such pressure that in some parts of England children only get seen by a psychiatrist if they have already tried to take their own lives at least once.

Despite growing need, criteria for being referred for NHS treatment have been tightened in most of England, the MPs say.

Liz Myers, a consultant psychiatrist with the Cornwall Partnership NHS foundation trust, told the inquiry that its services for the young were receiving 4,000 referrals a year, though were only commissioned by the NHS to do 2,000.

“This has meant that we are necessarily having to prioritise those who have the most urgent and pressing need, and we have no capacity for earlier intervention and very little capacity for seeing those perhaps with the less life-threatening or urgent risky presentations.

“There are increasing waits. It is not okay. We do not want that for our children and young people, but we have to just keep prioritising.”

Hilary Cass, president of the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health, said failure to tackle emerging problems with young people’s mental health meant the issue was now “a hidden epidemic”.

What do I think?

I find it sickening that ‘Pro-anorexia’ and self harm websites actually promote a sense of normality in acting on these issues. Countless tips and advice on ‘how to starve yourself without your parents knowing’, and so on. I understand that the point of such websites is to make anorexics, or self harmers, feel belonged in a community that advocates the same intentions as their own. However, if that is the purpose, then surely making one another realise the long term harm they are inflicting upon themselves, and creating a website that promotes togetherness rather than harm, is the answer.

Although, I do think that the internet does have many positive aspects to consider, with helping young people. In a way, the internet encouraged me to get help for my own depression because, unlike schools, the internet actually teaches me a significant amount more about mental health conditions. I was able to distinguish what attributes of mine were depressive, and which ones were just a normal part of human behaviour. Not to mention, the mental health forums and countless discussions on Mind about getting help. I think the internet encourages young people (like myself) to talk about depression. After all, it does affect one in four of us.

I understand that aspects such as porn and cyber-bullying completely demoralize young people (and anyone, for that matter) but all the dark features of the internet simply boil down to the weak security of the website provider. All you need to do is click the box ‘Yes, I am over 18’ and then bob’s your uncle, you have access to porn. And abusive comments on social media sites driving victims to suicide, is again down to weak control over allowing the content online (and of course, the bully). I don’t have an answer for this, or a perfectly feasible solution. I just have a voice, and that is to give every young person their own voice in mental health awareness.

Step three: Your problems do matter, open up.

The thing is, I can’t tell people how I feel because I feel like I don’t deserve to be pitied.

I feel that because people I know,  have much bigger problems than my own and they don’t even want to hear about my pea-sized problems. Yes, I have harmed myself in the past, get panic attacks AND I have clinical depression. I suppose all of those things make me COMPLETELY normal.

I say this to you now: your problems do matter! Even if your close friend is in an abusive relationship or you think about problems the third world countries have to face.
Sometimes your problems cut deeper than the blade you once cut yourself with.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, talk about your problems so they don’t accumulate into a heavy tonne of more problems. You’ll feel a lot lighter. Warning: weighing scales will not be affected.

And now I’ll leave you with a little slice of advice:
They might not always be as big of a problem as your friends are, but they are the biggest problems to you.

Diet Soda is associated with an increased risk of depression in adults while drinking coffee was tied to a slightly lower risk


Hold the diet soda? Sweetened drinks linked to depression, coffee tied to lower risk

10 JAN 2013

SAN DIEGO – New research suggests that drinking sweetened beverages, especially diet drinks, is associated with an increased risk of depression in adults while drinking coffee was tied to a slightly lower risk. The study was released today and will be presented at the American Academy of Neurology’s 65th Annual Meeting in San Diego, March 16 to 23, 2013.

“Sweetened beverages, coffee and tea are commonly consumed worldwide and have important physical—and may have important mental—health consequences,” said study author Honglei Chen, MD, PhD, with the National Institutes of Health in Research Triangle Park in North Carolina and a member of the American Academy of Neurology.

The study involved 263,925 people between the ages of 50 and 71 at enrollment. From 1995 to 1996, consumption of drinks such as soda, tea, fruit punch…

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Lib Dems: On reforming mental health services for young people

Reforming young people’s mental health services is a crucial mission for us in delivering a fairer society

Liberal Democrat Care and Support Minister Norman Lamb writes about the work he is doing in government to reform mental health care services for children and young people.

“Imagine for a minute you are a teenager, perhaps working hard for your a-level exams, struggling with relationships and all the social and academic pressures of school.  And on top of this, you might be among the 1 in 10 of your peers suffering from depression, an eating disorder, or another mental health problem.


“But if mental health services are the “Cinderella service” of our NHS, Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) are the Cinderella Service of Cinderella Services.  Effective support for a young person experiencing a mental health problem can have a transformative effect on the course of their entire life.  But the current CAMHS system too often is woefully inadequate.

“Earlier this year, I launched a CAMHS Task Force involving experts in the field, and also young people who have experience of mental health problems themselves.  The Task Force will look at how we can modernise children’s mental health service, making the best use of the resources available, and reforming services to end the “cliff edge” which occurs when young people move from under-18 care to adult services. It will look at how we can improve access – including through the use of exciting new online services – and how we can reduce the stigma of mental health services.

“The Health Select Committee has just published a new report which reinforces my view that the current service model is failing to give vulnerable young people the support they need.  They highlighted a range of areas where services are sometimes completely unacceptable.

“We are already tackling the unacceptable practice of holding some young people with severe mental ill-health in a police cell as a “place of safety”.  Local services like the NHS and the Police in each part of the country have now been asked to sign up to new standards for mental health crisis treatment.  A key requirement is to end the use of police cells for children with mental health problems.  As Liberal Democrats we can be incredibly proud that we are leading the fight to end this outrageous practice. In every part of the country, we should challenge services which fail to act.

“And the programme to increase access to talking therapies for children and young people, to replace, wherever possible, the practice of using drugs to control young people’s behaviour, has now reached the point where services are covering 60% of the 0-19 population.

“But this is just the start in delivering the improvements needed to CAMHS.  And we have to recognise that, in too many areas, local authorities and clinical commissioning groups have cut funding for children’s mental health services.

“I will be working closely with the Task Force over the coming months as they explore ways of improving the current system.  And I am determined to see their recommendations put into practice so we make sure young people receive the support they need.

“There are few things more distressing to see than a young person whose childhood has been scarred because they didn’t get the support they needed for a mental health condition.  This can go on to impact on the entire course of someone’s life if their education and social development is damaged.  Reforming young people’s mental health services is a crucial mission for us in delivering a fairer society, where everyone has the opportunity to live the life they choose.  And it is happening because of Liberal Democrats in government.”

I feel that young mental health sufferers are less inclined to use any services to begin with, unless we treat the mental health sector as important as physical health services.

What do you think?